light of the Sun

Makarsankranti is one of the biggest festival celebrated in India. Specially in Gujarat.

It is the festival of kites….weather feels breeze of wind…environment is full of happiness.  The sky takes on shades of orange during sunset , and gives us a hope that the sun will rise again …kites are like our dreams..which are thrown into the sky…by not knowing whether it will come back or its just starting of new life…..

Happy sankranti to all….

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Theory of relationship…..

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Most of us…once in a life face the situation…that how can they save their relationship with their loved one..!!??? Aren’t we…???

In every relationship…two major aspects play major role. One is Want (expectation) and another one is curiosity (looking for surprises). When you look for beyond need, is called want. When you just want to try something for the sake of having an experience is called curiosity.

Want and curiosity don’t have any end. So the question is do we need to draw the line somewhere??

An incident that I heard, makes me very confused about need of any line in a relationship. Before this incident I always believe that there should be a line that we don’t have to cross for the sake of our relationship. But know after hearing one of my friend…my mind is surrounded by lots of questions….and I am finding a solution for it in the trap of relationship theory.

One of my friend is happily married (I have thought of) and it has been nine lovely years.

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One day I came to know that she is having an extramarital affair..!!!! And I was shocked..!!! Because I know her since my childhood….my mind is never ready to accept this kind of incident from my close friend.

I met her and asked her why you are doing so??? You both are the inspiration for other couples. If there is a problem….there would be solution….and I asked her that things can be worked out….please draw a line.

She told me that, “I have always wondered, why to draw a line?? Why can’t I look forward to fulfilling all my needs, all my wants and all my curiosities? What is the harm in doing so? After all, I have got only one life. Why not live it to the fullest?”

I directly asked her that, “do you have some morals or ethics in your life…?”
She said yes, but they are subjective in nature. One person’s right can be another person’s wrong. It depends how you interpret it. She said the problem is our perception of constraints in a marriage. It is very nature of the forbidden to appear sweet. It pains me to confine in a boundary. Why does a relationship tie a couple down and not set them free?? Why within a marriage do you have to compromise with your freedom that you used to cherish before getting married? Isn’t it suffocating that you could do so much before marriage, but not after getting married???

I asked her that if you loved your freedom so much than why got married??
She replied, I want marriage as well. I denounce the restrictive aspect of it and embrace the joy it brings. I want to enjoy the essence of a married life as much as I want to retain my freedom. I want to live my life with someone, grow old, with that someone…and have my kids with that someone. After a day’s work I want to come back home to someone and share my every day with him. I want all of that.

I must admit she is very honest and somehow she puts me in a situation where I would like to think by being her side.

But still…again I return back to my old theories and request her that if there is a problem, it can be worked out.

She calmly replied, “what if it can’t be worked out? What if it is not humanly possible to do so??

She continued our conversation by adding that, “I want him to take care of me like my mom used to do, at times financially supports me as my father used to do, have fun with me like my sibling used to have, become my best friend so that I can share my secrets with him. I want him to give me all that my entire surrounding used to give me. Besides, I also want him to be my lover as well. I want him to become a part of my identity, complete my social status, comfort me, become my emotional support, understand me, love me, drive me wild in bed…..what is he……A Superman??? Even a superman as a partner would not fulfill my contradictory expectations. When I want him to be familiar and yes mysterious. How is possible that my life is for one person only?? Where do we fit ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands in case of break ups and divorces?? What do we do with that space? Leave it empty, after they leave? Why do you think that being with someone outside marriage while being married is a crime?? Am I criminal to you??

And I have no answers to her questions….I met her with so many doubts within me….and I want to justification of those doubts….but in return…her theory of relationship makes me helpless with so many doubts….I am talking to my inner self and looking for the justification of those doubts…. May be on some big day I could have answers to all her questions and I could be able to prove her that my theory of relationship has more justifying values than her…!!!

Theory

We cannot deny…….

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During the hours of darkness…..you cannot deny the hope of sunrise…,

If life exits…..than one cannot deny the truth of death…,

If you say life is easy….than you cannot deny,
the hardness hide behind the easiness of life,

Point out someone’s mistake is very easy…,
but you cannot deny the toughness of accepting your own mistake,

You have live every path of your life happily…,
but you cannot deny it is a harshness of grief which taught you to live a life…,

You know that world is full of kindness……,
but you cannot deny that your life is most affected by the little of viciousness,

If the passion is to love….and death is to hate,
than you cannot deny that death is a truth and love is fiction…,

May be your life is full of well-wishers and friends…..,
but you cannot deny enmity in your life…,

May be you have achieved everything in life and you are a famous personality,
But you cannot deny the place of loneliness—-emptiness in your life…,

You can act like a free bird,
but you cannot deny how much you are confined…,

Your life is all about struggle…,
but you cannot deny existence of harmony in your life…,

No matter how many time you say” it doesn’t matter…..
but you cannot deny that it matters a lot every single time…,

NO matter how much you believe in science….,
but you cannot deny that you can’t be free from superstitions,

No matter how much good deed you do…,
but you cannot deny your sins….

Ship of our life lives in a big bottle of denial…….

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Happiness is your own decision…

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“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be”

Promise yourself that you will launch a new energy into your life….give yourself an assurance that you will surely launch happiness and build your passions around your life. Your life is biggest gift to you given by God. Even you don’t have a right to hurt yourself because God have launched you in this world. And God have launched you in this world with predetermined roles….which we called Karma.

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Everything we do in our life….even a small thing…is the life that we are creating for ourselves. Don’t blame others for your failures and your sadness…..You are the reason behind your happiness and success…..In this world, you are launched alone and again and again you would be relaunched by God according to your Karma.

It is up to you, how you want to launch your life…..

What is Happiness….??? It is your choice to live a life…..
Nothing is greater than happiness in one’s life….your success, love, money, family….all these feelings leads you to happiness.

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Life is very precious and we all are lucky that we get launched by God….
Fall in love with Happiness… fall in love with yourself,
When you stop waiting for happiness and make most of the moment happy that you are in now … surely you will achieve all the happiness in your life…

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Happiness : Irrelevant….

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I waste my life like I have no time to be happy,
Than one day, I saw an old bagging for a bread,
After a struggle, he got some stale bread nearby dustbin…
He seems so happy that a tear fallen out from his eyes,
Then I realized that purpose of our life is not being happy,
Purpose of our life is to survive, to fight for our needs,
I realized that reality is not solacing, and it keeps me awake all night,
Thinking about why I am so worried about it….
So for me, happiness is irrelevant for seeking comfort in life.
Irrelevant: Happiness…!!!

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