In our day to day life….we are facing so many problems and we express our self differently….
In expressing ourselves, we forget to live our life….all depend upon how you tackle with the challenges in your life….is something missing in your life???How would you discover it???What problems would you face???How would you reacts to those problems???
1. Something was missing:
She annoyingly said, ‘This isn’t going anywhere’. My best friend said, ‘if I had been with you, sambhal leta yaar tere ko’. When I stepped into the corporate life, I have to earn courage to say goodbye to my father. I was told, ‘You have to walk alone. Be a man and manage yourself’. Then I realized that during the tough times, nobody stays. I had to take care of it all alone.
Every day, People step into our lives, some will inspire and some will disappoint us. But, in either case, nothing lasts forever, and at the end, we are left all alone. But how do I walk alone amidst all the dust and troubles? I definitely need a companion, a friend who would be honest and never betray me. But I also need someone who would keep me busy and cheerful all the time, challenge me, and tell me to aspire and rise above all.
2. Discovered a friend in me myself:
‘The show must go on’, I keep telling myself, ‘no matter what I have to deal with’. I did what I liked to do. Anything and everything that kept me elated and busy. There were times I ran hard, when I was hurt. I lifted heavy, when I was dusted. I sang out loud, to speak out my heart. By doing so, I felt content which is extremely hard to be quantified in words. It was a kind of epiphany when I felt like doing what I loved to do. It really helped me. I thought about the sweet indulgences that kept me involved and rewarded me. This eased my heart and the more I did, I start feeling better. In addition, this indulgence, never asked anything in return. Astonishingly, how something can be so selfless, and so giving. I found a friend, I found my passion, my hobby . . . !! !
3. Road blocks:
One question loomed over me: how to keep it going, so that we could nurture the friendship, make it even better?
Believe me, this friend of mine is really moody and stubborn. You really have to earn this friend. We always face challenges. Physically, mentally, sometimes socially as well.
I remember that fine evening, I loved the tiredness that I felt. It was like I had pushed myself to the limit. That feeling of contentment so overwhelming, so overpowering that it almost felt like an intoxicant. Hell, why ‘almost’? It did feel intoxicating. ‘Whom should I call to share this achievement of mine? My mind raced. ‘Okay, let me call Dad.’
‘Hi, Dad. So, I completed 31 rounds of the ground today. And you know what? Each lap measured 450 meters.’ With a tiniest hint of pride in my voice, I continued, ‘I got cramps, but it doesn’t matter!’ After an awkward pause, ‘Is this really necessary? Why do you keep dragging yourself for no reason?’ Did I feel disappointed? Yeah, sure. I mean, I would be lying if I didn’t. I hung up. Wasn’t Dad’s fault really. Different people, different expectations and this holds true for many parents. And hey! It’s absolutely normal.
When I was a kid, I was told repeatedly, you will have to study hard to be an engineer, doctor or something that would make sure, you get your steady supply of bread and butter. What fascinated me, was cricket. Surprisingly, nobody considered this as a career option. Not everyone would like what you do! Sometimes, we feel a bit reluctant to work hard and sweat it out, may it be in the gym or on the ground. The important thing, and honestly the only thing that matters is, there has to be a sincere approach to whatever you do. That should be your only source of motivation. And once when you are on the right track, the reward will be yours to take.
Jordan Belfort once said, ‘The only thing between you and your goal is, the silly reason that you keep giving yourself why you can’t do it’. Attitude plays a pivotal role. Just hang on to it and the rest will fall in place. As they say, patience is the mother of all virtues.
4. It’s all gold, come on, chase it:
During my school days, I ‘tried to study hard’ as I had to, but it didn’t come to me naturally. This thing used to bog me down, and somewhere in my mind lurked the insecure thought, ‘I am not the best’. “People who top the class are born toppers and they are gifted”. But when I excelled (and was appreciated) in things I was good at, my spirits soared high. I chased it harder, since I liked it. It intrigued me time and time again, that the only person to whom I needed to prove, was myself. As a result of which, I started competing with myself and improved to a certain extent. I learnt to never doubt my own capabilities and kept on trying, as trying always yields. This attitude helped me in my studies, and in every other thing where self-doubt used to plague me. Earlier, I used to give up thinking that this isn’t my cup of tea. For me, the attitude that I developed was glittering gold.
When it comes to attitude, I remember what Harsha Bhogle once said, ‘Major part of excellence has nothing to do with talent, and when you go beyond a certain level, ability or talent is the most useless virtue to possess. It’s’’ what you do with the talent that matters. Talent always breathes ego. The work ethic and attitude plays a vital role.’
The best example he cited was of Sachin Tendulkar, who had played 55 matches as a 14 year old, without a break. For 55 days, he practiced for 2 hours, played a game and then again practiced for 2 hours. Can you believe that someone has done this for 55 days at a stretch? If the deciding factor here isn’t attitude, I seriously don’t know what it is!! It’s not only Sachin’s talent that has produced these 100 hundreds, it’s his work ethics, attitude and more than anything else, the passion to perform. Isn’t it inspiring!! When you perform or play a sport, you cannot hide yourself. You have to bring the best in you, as you are completely vulnerable before the crowd. To top it off, it’s real time!! Such situations bring out the real you, something you thought you never were.
So, in pursuing this life, we have lost it all. We have lost that spark which we had in us. Which would have yielded bigger rewards. We measure life in how much we earn and how much we have to spend. This thought of savings and spending is paralyzing, and honestly, where is it all headed to? But it’s never late. If you have that mettle in you, then go chase it and bring it out. Send the message out, clear and loud, that I rule my life and I know how to celebrate and make it worthwhile.